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Posted By Administration, Thursday, June 15, 2017

In my coaching practice, clients often ask how do I reach my goal faster?

My answer? Momentum.

Momentum is the energy that carries any thought or idea through to fruition. It’s the engine in your car of life.

It is a crucial point in determining if there will be success or failure when you receive an idea.

If it is directed deliberately, momentum will build energy bridging the gap from having the idea to bringing it to fruition.

When you doubt, or don’t trust your ideas, it puts a kink in the flow, slowing down the accomplishment of your goal. This is much like folding a water hose and slowing the flow of water.

Utilizing momentum, you choose the speed limits of your life. You decide how fast you want to take the curves and switchbacks.

Here’s how it works:

Generalizing – Slow it down

To slow your momentum, imagine rough, mountain roads with switchbacks around every turn, twists and turns, you probably wouldn’t feel safe driving100 mph across that treacherous terrain.

Same goes when you start to feel a wobble, or you hear the voice of your evil twin (admit it we all have one – it’s why we’re superheroes – we use our power for good not evil) taunting you, this is when you want to direct your momentum the way you would drive on that precarious mountain road. You want to slow your roll, make sure you have an aerial view, keeping the big picture (ie: your safe arrival) in the forefront of your mind, moment to moment.

Detailing – Speed it up

To speed up momentum towards a goal consider the autobahn in Europe. The road is mapped out ahead of you and smooth pavements. You feel great driving your master crafted vehicle at higher speeds, you know the destination, and now you are ensconced in the experience of feeling the road, paying attention to every little detail, other drivers, the lines, the curves, the shoulder, aware and ready to adjust your trajectory in a heartbeat.

On days when you feel things are going your way – that shows your alignment is directed towards your goals, the more you focus on every detail of what is going great about your day, the faster your momentum increases (just like the autobahn) and the better you will feel. This is when the opportunity comes a’nockin’.

When you first start working deliberately with your momentum you may find the road is a bit bumpy getting started, but just like riding a bike once you start pedaling it’s easier to steer. So, while you may wobble from side to side, just keep pedaling, it will soon straighten out!

And yes, there were times I didn’t realize my focus needed readjusting until I was already in the “weeds” lost, frustrated with no map. Trust me, getting out of those dead ends took time, energy and support from my community.

Most people believe momentum is built through force – pushing something away, dragging it towards you, making it happen, exerting energy. Truth is momentum can be your friend and a great tool if you know how to use it. If you direct your momentum (by directing your thought) towards your goals, your dreams, your desires you will HAVE success.

When you hit roadblocks, an irritable partner, a prickly boss or a mistake in your perfect presentation; that’s the time to practice working with your momentum. This is where the magic happens! You choose whether to speed it up – making everything bigger or slow it down so you can redirect the course.

OR an alternate route:

When that irritable partner shows up, you can navigate your momentum like that back-mountain road, taking a general and higher perspective, like the eagle soaring above. So instead of jumping into their momentum by getting agitated, trying to make them feel better or my personal favorite – trying to fix it, you focus on the situation from a higher perspective, instead of agreeing with what is making them angry, you see them as something other than what they are exhibiting in that moment.  You’ll see that momentum rules!

Edited content from Lynnette Brown,



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Posted By Shalia Gibson, Tuesday, May 30, 2017

Advice from the traveler community on their best-ever packing tips. Here’s what they had to say.

Pack light to travel light. If you can manage with a carry-on, do it. Try taking half of the things you need and twice the money. You can make buying a few new items a fun part of the adventure.

Pack a sleep mask and ear plugs. These can come in handy on a plane, train or in your hotel room.

Capitalize on empty suitcase space. Roll your clothes, instead of folding them. Stuff socks, underwear, and accessories inside of shoes. Leave no space unused.

Keep a sarong or pashmina in your carry-on. They can be used as a blanket on the plane, a scarf if it’s cold or a shawl on an evening out.

Bag it. Kitchen sandwich bags can be used to hold your accessories, vacuum pack bags can be space savers, and trash bags have multiple uses (laundry bag, shoe covers).

Skip airport snacks and bring your own. You can save yourself a bit of money and keep your hunger at bay in case you have a delayed flight.

Create compartments. Two words: packing cube. If you are visiting more than one city during your trip, packing cubes will keep your suitcase organized and save you from having to pack and unpack.

Share your packing space. Traveling with a girlfriend? Split your clothes between two suitcases on the off chance one of them gets lost during the flight.

Bring a multi-socket extension cord. Although newer hotels have USB ports in rooms, it’s best to have an extra outlet to charge all of your electronics at once.

Make photocopies before leaving home. If you’re traveling out of the country, make two photocopies of your passport. Use your smartphone to take pictures of your car in the airport’s parking garage and do the same for your luggage and its contents in case it gets lost.

Consider this: Wear old t-shirts, pants, underwear, and socks and throw them away on the trip after you wear them. That way your luggage is lighter and you have room to purchase items on your trip"

Forgot your toothpaste, toothbrush, comb, deodorant? Check with the front desk of your hotel… they’ve always got small samples available.


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Posted By Administration, Thursday, May 25, 2017

A wise man named Rudolfo Costa once said “Erase from your vocabulary the word ‘someday.’  Do not save things for ‘special occasions.’  Take into account the fact that every day is special.  Every day is a gift that we must appreciate and be thankful for”... Live every day to the fullest and savor every minute of it.”

He offered these illustrations of his point:  “Wear your attractive clothes, wear your nice perfume, use your fine silverware and dishes, and drink from your expensive crystal glasses...”  

The key idea here is to make use of the good things in your life.  I’m sure there are plenty of us who find ourselves a little short of expensive crystal or fine silverware.  But we probably all have possessions that we treat as too nice or too special to use right now. The late humorist, Erma Bombeck, wrote about a woman who was given the gift of a gorgeous, wildly expensive lace slip.  She put off wearing it because there was never an occasion special enough.  She eventually wore it – in her coffin.  I know, that’s a jarring example, but it certainly makes the point.  The poor woman should have enjoyed this gift by using it.  It did no one (especially her) any good wrapped in tissue paper in a nice box – in a drawer.

It’s not about “stuff” itself; it’s about making use of what you have while you can.  What about our gifts and talents?  You can have all the potential in the world but it will come to nothing if you never unleash those latent talents and use them!  If you do happen to have fine crystal and dishes, have people to dinner.  If you have a talent, like quilt-making, make quilts as love gifts.  As an artist I can say that the art pieces that have made me the happiest were those made as gifts for people I love.  All of this circles back to this:  saving anything for “someday” is almost certainly preventing someone’s enjoyment.  If it involves using a talent or a possession to bless other people it will result in warm feelings all around.  And that kind of warm feeling is called “fulfillment.”  

In Friendship,

EQM Sue Ellen Cooper


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Posted By Administration, Thursday, May 18, 2017
Updated: Wednesday, May 17, 2017

1. Stay off social media. If you want to be super productive in your morning routine, the key is to stay off of social media. Once you log in, it’s so hard to log off. Unless social media is part of your job, avoid logging in at any cost in the morning.

2. Make a list for yourself. Sometimes you’re not super productive because you don’t know what you should be doing. Instead of wondering what’s next, make yourself a list. Crossing something off of your list always feels good, doesn’t it?  

3. Eat a good breakfast. Another way to be super productive in the morning is to actually eat breakfast. Don’t skip out on fueling your body what it needs to survive.  

4. Stay off your phone. Unless you need to be on your phone for business purposes, try to avoid it in the morning. Just like social media, phones can also suck your time away.

5. Prep the night before. Sometimes a little prep the night before can help make your morning routine run more smoothly. For example, you can lay out your clothing for the next day. Thinking ahead is always a time saver and can motivate you to be more productive.  

6. Try to be positive. Keep in mind that you’re human, so things are bound to go wrong. You can’t get upset when things go wrong, instead, you need to have a good attitude about it all. You can have a good attitude by trying to let things go that aren’t going your way. Positivity always gets you further.

7. Jump right in. Some people waste time in the morning because they cannot decide what they need to do first. In order to be super productive in the morning, jump right in. Sometimes you just need to get started in order to start rolling.

Being super productive in your morning routine comes down from to not getting distracted, taking care of yourself, and not fiddling around.

(Edited for space - Compliments of Katie Hale of Premeditated Leftovers)

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Seeing the Red Hat Society

Posted By Administration, Thursday, May 11, 2017
Updated: Wednesday, May 10, 2017

I was out to dinner with my dad and stepmom one Friday night during April when I noticed a bunch of older women walking in with these really huge, detailed red hats. The diner staff was directing them all to the same room, but I didn’t think much of it. As I was eating my Reuben, Dad had made a comment about all of these women with these red hats, and how it couldn’t just be a coincidence. My stepmom looked at him and said, as passively as if she was talking about fruit sales: “Oh, that’s just the Red Hat Society.”

I kind of laughed a bit and put down a french fry. “The what,” I asked her. I wanted to make sure I heard her correctly.

“The Red Hat Society,” she said. “It’s a group of women who meet with red hats.”

I was smiling by this point. No way is this true, I was thinking to myself. By this time, there were about 15 women in this back room wearing red hats and purple dresses. I knew she wasn’t lying, but at the same time, this seemed kind of fake.

“It’s not fake,” she said to me. “These women meet and talk about things. It’s a giant social thing.”

These women were coming in with some of the biggest red hats I had ever seen. The hats reminded me of something you would see on the women in England: extravagant, bold, expensive looking. Every time another woman came in, I was totally amazed by the hats.

We finished our food and I ran out to the car as fast as I could. I wanted to Google the Red Hat Society, but I needed my car charger. My stepmom thought my curiosity was hilarious. I was amazed at how intrigued I was at this mystery club with colorful clothing.

Google brought me right to their website. With some digging, this is what I found. This information is copy and pasted directly from the website, as not to leave out anything important. All rights belong to the Red Hat Society:

Most women give their all to family, career, and community. And they enjoy it. But, along the way, sometimes our existing bonds of friendship gradually diminish. Membership in the Red Hat Society is a rewarding vehicle for reconnecting old friends, making new friends and rediscovering the joy of getting together with other women for the express purpose of… having FUN! We wholeheartedly promote periods of “recess” from the cares and duties of everyday life in which Hatters gather for no other purpose than to play.

I also found out that this club considered itself a “play group for women” and divides its members into two groups; queens and members. Women over 50-years-old wear red hats and purple clothing, where women under 50-years-old wear pink hats and lavender clothing. Everyone I saw was wearing red and purple. I didn’t even realize there were younger members until I did some research.

The description of the rankings (all rights belong to the Red Hat Society, description copy and pasted for accuracy):

Queen of a Chapter

·    You deserve the title! You’ve always felt you were Queen material.

·    You are ready for the attention that comes along with being THE QUEEN!

·    You want to lead a Chapter that shares the power of fun and friendship.

·    You are new to the area, in a new life stage or ready for new friendships.

·    You have a specific interest or talent and want to attract others who enjoy your idea of fun.

Supporting Member

·    You are ready to bring fun and friendship into your life.

·    You are new to the idea of “play” in your life and want to test the waters before diving in.

·    You are new to the area or in a new life stage.

·    You’ve already met a local Chapter you want to play with and will be aligning with that Chapter.


RHS prides themselves in being able to help women “shed stereotypes” and “form bonds” with other women who have like minds and similar interests.

To see this with my own eyes was pretty cool. I didn’t know the Red Hat Society existed, but I was so interested in what this club was all about that I just had to share this experience, and the research that I found, with you all. You never know what you’ll learn about when you go out to dinner with your parents.


Blog Credit: Kate Lembo

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Hope Springs Eternal

Posted By Administration, Wednesday, April 19, 2017

It is hard to stay hopeful when you are worried to death. It requires determined attention and an exquisite combination of focus, concentration and surrender. It is an exercise of discipline and a test of faith.


During a recent gathering, I passed a set of Guatemalan worry dolls around the circle to help us relinquish the nagging apprehensions and insidious anxieties that sap our strength and resolve. All those sneaky, nasty, niggly worries that worm their way into our brains and take up our good time.


Worry dolls are wonderful. There is nothing you can't tell them. Absolutely nothing shocks them, they've heard it all before. And whatever it is that troubles you, they take care of it. Get rid of it. Swallow it. Spirit it away. It is their job, and they are professionals. What a tremendous relief it is to hand over your distress to someone else to deal with.


As the participants took the tiny figures into the palms of their hands, they would allow the flood gates of their heart to open, and let loose a stream of sadness, stress, panic, guilt, worst-case scenarios and catastrophic fears.


When the dolls reached Dora, a woman in her sixties, she calmly declared, "I don't worry. I hope."


Brilliant! Talk about positive reinforcement.


There are those who say that hope is futile, a waste of time, of precious energy. They contend that hope is completely unrealistic. Simply wishful thinking, they insist. And I say, "Yes. It is, and thank goodness!"


Studies show that optimistic people consistently out-perform those who consider themselves to be more realistic, because they place fewer restrictions on themselves. If you don't know that something is impossible, you are more likely able to be able to do it. Things are only impossible until they aren't! "I think I can. I think I can. I think I can."


While we often have little or no control over the situations that affect us, we do have control over our own perceptions of them. We do have the very real and extremely potent power of perspective. And we definitely possess the crucial and vitally influential choice of how we will deal with whatever comes our way. How we will handle ourselves.


In a wide range of happiness studies conducted lately, including several with major lottery winners, it was clearly demonstrated that professional, educational or financial success are not predictors of contentment. Nor are gender, age, race, religion, health or ethnic background.


The key common factors across the board that seem to determine satisfaction, peace of mind, and yes, happiness, are: optimism, self-confidence, self-control, connection to community and living with a sense of spirituality. And, I might add, the desire to be so.


Happiness is fleeting (as is pain). The trick is to court it, to recognize it - even in camouflage - to acknowledge its presence when and where we least expect it, to celebrate each second of the healing heart and soul of it, and to rejoice in our own exhilarating ability to create it for ourselves and others at any given moment, in any circumstance.


"If you are happy and you know it, clap your hands!"


(Edited for space - complements of Donna Henes)


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